To my future daughter :
Dear little one,
I know you’re lying there on the bed crying because of the boy who means the world to you. He must’ve said or done something stupid or maybe it was you . Well, regardless of whosoever it was, learn to forgive. Forgive yourself and him for whatever it was. And mind you, by that I do not mean you need to take him back or beg him to stay, what I mean is to let it go. Cry for as long as you want. It’s okay and it’s normal, you’ll be fine soon . Listen to Ed Sheeran to Sam Smith. To Lana Del Rey to Hasley. To The 1975 to the Avett brothers . To The Smiths to Kodaline. Feel the lyrics, know that you are not alone. You will never be alone . And if you ever need me, know that I will be there with a tub of ice cream, books and bunch of series/movies to watch and a promise, that it will all get better with time too.
Nothing is ever as bad as it seems. Things may seem all wrong at times and you may not be able to make sense of it, but don’t worry…that’s life, honey. That’s life for you and for each and everyone of us. It’s a pain in the ass but it is sort of all we have. Embrace it with a smile. Remember, you are as mighty as a tree and though life may try to cut you down, know that your roots run too far, too deep.
Be kind to everyone always, because you never know what battles others are fighting. Talk to the girl who talks to herself, watch her smile as you ask her about her day. Help little kids open the door and carry their cycles down the stairs. Smile and wish them a good day. Compliment everyone who crosses your way. Call your best friend and tell her she’s worthy too, go for long walks and take her out for ice creams and soups. Look at yourself in the mirror and compliment yourself too. Read your favourite book, smell it and cry with the protagonist, sometimes it helps you to feel better too. Know that looks don’t matter as much you think they do. Dress up in clothes you feel comfortable in, wear whatever you want. Do it for yourself. Do it because it makes you feel comfortable in you.
Write. Write what you were feeling yesterday and what you are feeling now. Writing is the best healer to vent your feelings out. When there are days words don’t find there way out on paper , paint. Paint your boldest strokes and let your paintings scream on your behalf. And on days when everything feels too much, fall asleep with whispers of your favourite spoken words by your favourite poets. Feel what they are feeling, and let their voices be the ones that calm you down. Also, always remember you are not obligated to be nice all the time. Learn to express yourself and say “NO” . Sometimes being bad is good.
Because there will be days when people you trusted the most or people you don’t even know will try their best to pull you down but don’t let them do so! Fight for yourself and the things you believe in. Speak up with a voice coated with power and dipped in strength. Never be silenced by small minds but be encouraged by big hearts. Work hard and follow your passion and dreams. Be brave and do it boldly.
Lastly, learn to love yourself. Love yourself the way you love others. Beating yourself over your mistakes, doesn’t help you do better in any way. You’re not gonna be perfect at everything and it’s okay. Your worth is more than your size or height , it’s more than the boy in the football team who didn’t choose you, it’s more than the girl who commented on what you wear or the way you look ; because honey, your worth comes from the sparkle in your eyes when you talk about what you love. Your worth comes from the confidence in your smile when you feel good in your own skin. Your worth my love, is extraordinary and indescribable. So whenever needed, help yourself the way you help others because the truth is no one saves you, so save yourself the way you would save others.
– a letter from another daughter. 💙