There are days when it becomes necessary for each one of us to understand that despite of how naturally it may come to you to give your all to each person you come across, the bitter truth is that not everyone is going to replicate the same. You may do thousands of things for them but they might still not acknowledge the amount of efforts you’re putting in.
You need to understand that the universe works on the principle of give and take and not just “give-give”. So what’s the point of giving your all to people who don’t do the same for you? Learn ( practice ) self care instead and reign it in. Care only for those who care for you than leaving yourself open for all to take advantage of.
Stop leaving your heart away so easily with the those who got no intentions to keep it. Know that, not everyone means everything that they say like you do and besides , you are the only one who deserves your affection foremost.
Accept the fact that romantic love can fall apart as swiftly as it came up together. So remember not to make it your centre of universe and be prepared for the worst of the scenerios.
And there are going to be days when the people who you thought loved you the most in this world, would stop caring for you all of a sudden and leave you in shatters . You’ll gasp for every breath you take and look for something/someone to lean on to mend your broken pieces or someone to make your teary self fall to sleep- and it can be anyone/ anything- your friends or your art or crying in an empty room till you lose out breath.
But , you cannot stay broken! There may come bad days more often than the lives you’ve lived happily. Sometimes as bad as to paralyse you and make your very existence questionable. But don’t be afraid. Know that with the bad days come good ones too. Keep trying hard to fly over these dark clouds and you’ll reach the rainbow. Remember how you’ve made it this far : alive, breathing and hoping. Stay optimistic no matter what. Trust me, you’ve got it all !
Remember, constant conversation is not necessarily communication. There are people who will understand you with just a single nod. Stick to them. But then there will also be people who will never pick up on how close you have been on the verge of crying or the times your voice wobbled before you were on the verge of collapse and choked words trying to complete a sentence. Identify them. Beware.
Every time they hit you on the ground, remember bouncing back on your feet. Stand tall. Trust me, you’ve got it all!
Don’t let anyone ever define your worth by your body or your brain. You’re worth more than being beautiful, sexy or intellect. These things often have the potential to fluctuate by outer charges. Remember, you’re a human and you may not always be perfect. We all have flaws. And it’s absolutely okay. Embrace them.
Lastly-remember to do what’s the best for you , don’t ever feel guilty about something that was the best for you. People will come and go-know that only the true ones will stick around with you till the end. Cherish them. Stop pouring tears /your heart/ for those who changed your smile into a frown. There is nothing in this world that blooms all year long , so stop expecting yourself to do so either. It’s okay to not have it all figured out yet. You’re doing great , keep doing it at your own pace. No hurries.
Stay strong and keep fighting for yourself!
P.S : If you’re going through anything right now then i hope you feel better and get through it. you’ve got this, fren. You can do this. You’ve come this far, you can dodge all the plasticity in your life. Just take a deep breath. Relax.
P.P.S : also if no-one has told you today how amazing you are. Lemme tell you, you don’t need to worry! You’re doing great. And I love you all!!!!!! 💙
– Vaishnavi Parihar